Is it wrong for a man to have a man-crush on another guy?

[fraroc]

I'm being totally serious here. A man crush is when a man really admires another guy in a non sexual way.

You already know this and I've said this A MILLION times, but I have the largest mancrush EVER on Hugh Jackman. He's such a loveable man, you know? Not only is he really good looking and all the girls like him, he is such a nice man and a real funny guy. The Wolverine badass persona does not reflect on what Hugh really is as a person. He really is a wonderful human being both in and out and he is one of the few celebs I still hold in high regard.

Some men belive that its a bad thing to admire another man, what do you think? Is it really so evil that GOD FORBID a man likes another man?

[GigaRevival]

Well... considering I'm a gay rights activist (not that this necessarily falls under homosexuality); I'm going to go with a no.

I have plenty of heterosexual friends that have "man crushes" and are comfortable enough with their sexuality to admit that publicly. A man crush, like you said, isn't necessarily a crush as more of an idol; or someone that you *really* look up to or can admit is attractive in more ways that just physically.

In other words, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and I don't think admiration of another is something that someone should feel the need to hide. But that's just me.

PS: Hugh Jackman is a good choice. ;)

[ElementMK]

This thinking is a slippery slope. Next you'll be asking if it's okay for a man to have a man-crush on a woman.

[Elexis]

I have a non-sexual crush on another female, does that count?
I don't think that it's wrong at all, we all have our idols, we all admire someone. Some people even try to copy the style of their idols, some of them even want to BE their idol... This is what called to be a fan of someone regardless their gender.

[Purity4]

I'm being totally serious here. A man crush is when a man really admires another guy in a non sexual way.

You already know this and I've said this A MILLION times, but I have the largest mancrush EVER on Hugh Jackman. He's such a loveable man, you know? Not only is he really good looking and all the girls like him, he is such a nice man and a real funny guy. The Wolverine badass persona does not reflect on what Hugh really is as a person. He really is a wonderful human being both in and out and he is one of the few celebs I still hold in high regard.

Some men belive that its a bad thing to admire another man, what do you think? Is it really so evil that GOD FORBID a man likes another man?

I don't think there is anything odd or bad or wrong about one man admiring another man. I do, however, find it odd when the man being admired is a persona, a celebrity, a character. How many times have you visited with Hugh and laughed at his jokes, in person, how often has he done something loving to which you were an involved witness? Celebrity crushes are not the same thing as man-crushes. Just sayin'.

[Elyasis]

Yes, absolutely, your unhealthy obsession will lead you to hell.


In all seriousness, it's not for anyone else to decide but you. Everyone one else can stuff it.

[Shoosh Malooka]

I'd be more worried if you had a man-crush on Wolverine.

No, there is nothing wrong with a man's non-gay crush admiration on another man. No, it does not make you gay. Believing that it does is a bit homophobic.

That doesn't mean that you should openly declare your man-crush to your friends, because they will tease you.

[maxon]

Some men belive that its a bad thing to admire another man, what do you think? Is it really so evil that GOD FORBID a man likes another man?
Don't be absurd (or don't some men be absurd). Of course it's ok to admire someone - doesn't matter what sex they are.

Talking of HJ, did you know he wanted to learn to dance when he was a kid and got put off it by his brother telling him dancing was for 'poofs'? And the day after his brother apologised for that (when they were an adults), HJ went out and started a dance class? Also, HJ has done a lot of work on the musical stage. We had an interview with the man in my favourite UK broadsheet this week. HJ does indeed come across as a nice, likeable guy - with a sense of humour: "You really know you've made it when the gay rumours start."

http://www.guardian.co.uk/film/2011/oct/06/hugh-jackman-interview-real-steel?INTCMP=SRCH - enjoy.

[whiterider]

Yes. Totally wrong. Don't you know that man-crushes cause global warming??!?

maxon: Even then, though, the persona that comes across in any kind of media setting isn't going to be entirely true-to-life. An interview like that isn't a totally relaxed setting, you don't really trust the journalist(s), and you're going to be a little guarded even if for the most part everything's going fine.

[fraroc]

PS: Hugh Jackman is a good choice. ;)


What can you say? I'm a good picker ;)

[LilyT]

It's whatever, you know?

If you want to have a totally platonic man crush, go right ahead.
If you want to do something about that man crush, go right ahead. But, considering your chosen man crush is a celebrity, it may strike your object of affection as weird.

[BlakeS5678]

Yes. Totally wrong. Don't you know that man-crushes cause global warming??!?

Um, you were kidding right? :)

[whiterider]

Kidding?
http://www.modyourpanties.com/hosting/30635_111008120251imsirius-small.jpg

[paksetti]

I have an unnatural and wholly unwholesome man crush at a guy at work. His eyes. They kill me...

[Yammas91]

It;s not gay but just because you think you know him ..... doesnt mean you do.

[fraroc]

Uhhhh... I never said I was obsessed with him....

[SimsLover50]

Is this really something we can debate? HEH.

[BlakeS5678]

Is this really something we can debate? HEH.

Um, I think we're suppose to be debating whether man crushes are wrong or not. I think. My stance is what do you define as a man crush and how deep is it? I don't think it's wrong to admire other men. But, when does "admiring" stop, I think is the question. Personally, I never admire, just secretly get jealous. ;)

[EliDawn]

I really don't see a problem with it. As you said it's not sexual, so it's more along the lines of looking up to the man. It's not really homosexuality. I see it more as choosing someone you'd like to be like some day. Everyone has someone like that.

[Elanorea]

Short answer: No.

Long answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

[SuicidiaParasidia]

In all seriousness, it's not for anyone else to decide but you. Everyone one else can stuff it.

this, a million times.
things get ugly when people stop acknowledging the boundaries of what is and is not their business.

[acid_paradox]

Yes. Like whiterider said, man-crushes cause global warming. They also cause baby monkeys to die. Do you want baby monkeys to die? I do. I hate baby monkeys. Though I imagine they taste quite well. Wanna know what else I think tastes quite well? Real babies. Hmmm.... Throw them in a pot with some vegetables and seasoning, perfect feast for Thanksgiving. Why do they call it Thanksgiving? We should call it Thankstaking. Wanna know why? Because I'm the robber that goes around stealing hams from Wal-Marts around the country. Wanna know why I steal just hams? Cause I hate turkey. I wish all of the turkeys in Turkey-land would get man-crushes so that they would have global warming and drown. Or explode. Or become delicious turkey dinners so that they could feed all of the starving children in the world. I hate turkeys. And monkeys. And man-crushes.











Just kidding, dude, there's nothing wrong with a man-crush. It's called being a fan.

[ElementMK]

http://i51.tinypic.com/2nk5ni1.gif
For acid_paradox.

[DrowningFishy]

I hate turkeys. And monkeys. And man-crushes.

I totally read that wrong; I read have instead of hate. :lol: Sorry acid_paradox almost mistook you as a furr-:cough: I just misunderstood you.

Nothing wrong with a man-crush just so long as you don't start stalking like Homer there.

[Mistermook]

Don't stalk anyone for any reason, whether they're a celebrity or not. We awesome people do not appreciate cold calls in the dead of night from freaky people telling us how great they are, or asking what we're wearing. We don't like lengthy letters proving that you've gotten our home addresses sent to us with pictures of your family, and proclamations how you're going to leave those chumps to be with us. If we don't answer or reply to people about how awesome we are, we especially don't like feeling like "jogging? that crazy person knows where I live, and that trail behind the house is totally where some insane person would shove a steak knife into my guts for not loving them back completely and totally just as much as they adore me."

Don't be that person and you can crush on anyone you like.

[unalisaa]

But Mistermook, your fashion choices are important to me :(

[WayBack]

Some men belive that its a bad thing to admire another man, what do you think?

I think they're very insecure if they're afraid to admire another man. The role model can be a great motivation to evolve and become a better person. Through all our life we learn from others--parents, friends, people around us. Pick what you like and admire about the person, and see if you can do it too. It shouldn't be judged as a sexual thing.

The world would be a miserable place if sex were the only reason why we like each other.

[fraroc]

Don't stalk anyone for any reason, whether they're a celebrity or not. We awesome people do not appreciate cold calls in the dead of night from freaky people telling us how great they are, or asking what we're wearing. We don't like lengthy letters proving that you've gotten our home addresses sent to us with pictures of your family, and proclamations how you're going to leave those chumps to be with us. If we don't answer or reply to people about how awesome we are, we especially don't like feeling like "jogging? that crazy person knows where I live, and that trail behind the house is totally where some insane person would shove a steak knife into my guts for not loving them back completely and totally just as much as they adore me."

Don't be that person and you can crush on anyone you like.


um.....................not in my wildest dreams.....

[Mistermook]

But Mistermook, your fashion choices are important to me :(
That's ok. When you crush so hard you show up at my house one night and I don't know you, and you've got "presents" of "all my favorite clothes" that you've discerned from meticulously recording my clothes choices in your journal, and you've never spoken to me, then your crushing is getting out of hand.

[Mistermook]

um.....................not in my wildest dreams.....
Right, and if you do start having wild dreams of stabbing me in the guts... a little warning might be nice. You know, since we're pals and all that.

/backs away slowly

[DrowningFishy]

Right, and if you do start having wild dreams of stabbing me in the guts... a little warning might be nice. You know, since we're pals and all that.

/backs away slowly

::throws up her arms:: Where is the fun if you see it comming, huh? Especially when your pals because you never see that knife comming. Just remeber if you hear a strange sound go investigate it because if you don't the horror flick won't start.

[Weisskreuz]

If you have to refer to it as a "Man-crush" as opposed...to just "crush" then it's best if I say yes. Maybe next time you'll use a real word.

[MaxQBaker]

I'm being totally serious here. A man crush is when a man really admires another guy in a non sexual way.

You already know this and I've said this A MILLION times, but I have the largest mancrush EVER on Hugh Jackman. He's such a loveable man, you know? Not only is he really good looking and all the girls like him, he is such a nice man and a real funny guy. The Wolverine badass persona does not reflect on what Hugh really is as a person. He really is a wonderful human being both in and out and he is one of the few celebs I still hold in high regard.

Some men belive that its a bad thing to admire another man, what do you think? Is it really so evil that GOD FORBID a man likes another man?


I can't imagine why that would be "wrong."

Just another form of hero-worship/mentor/idol types of expression.

[Dreamydre]

Absolutely not. We have a problem amongst American men and men at large in today's society. Men have a hardtime relating to each other because of the pressures of being called homosexual. Women can sleep in the same beds, wear each others clothes, call each other girlfriends, etc. While for men everything is almost always strictly applied, then again this is based off of my own observation and opinion of men.

[Lawli-Lawli]

I'm not getting into the "GOD" bit, but I think its pretty admirable that you like another man, even in a non-sexual way.

In a time where breathing in the same room as another guy can be interpreted as gay, I'd say I wish there were more guys like you who understand that admiration is not the same as lust.