I accidentally had a gay sim get married to a woman!!!

[jthm_nny]

So I made a sims family, the very first one I made. When I got back to playing them again I noticed something unusual about my sim Steven....He seemed very feminine and would literally skip. He was this big ultra masculine looking guy with a beard. Then later I could have sworn his wife Alexandra was flirting with her female coworker she brought home from work. I used a cheat to find out what both their gender preferences really were. Steven was attracted to Males. Alexandra, it turned out, was attracted to both Males AND Females. I'm kind of wondering why Steven ended up with the personality of a stereotypical swishy gay man instead of a masculine one like his appearance would suggest, but I guess the game just randomizes things just like real life does.

[WooHoo31]

Because stereotypes are simply stereotypes... Big, masculine men are allowed to act all "swishy and feminine". There are actually a lot of guys (gays especially) who look big and masculine but act as feminine as the next female.

Luckily, The Sims don't base people on stereotypes like a lot of the real world does.

[Fivey]

Because stereotypes are profiles based on loose observation and ignorance?

Sexuality in sims is very open. You don't have prejudice and hate based on anything but whether that person is an ass or not. Plus, there is no black and white situations concerning orientation. So, if my straight college boy , Emil, is grabbed by his best friend Eckhard to make out, they're gonna make out with no struggle. It's based more on relationship rather than sexuality.

Although, I noticed that ACR tends to choose sexuality based on interests, seeing how many of male sims who like fashion end up gay...

[Peni Griffin]

The vanilla game starts everybody as gender neutral and sexuality is set by the player choosing with whom they should have erotic interactions. So presumably you got this result through a mod. I suggest you RTFM.

Also - big butch-looking queen married to bi-adventurous woman? This is a set-up that begs to be developed. Backstory! Motivations! Intrigue! Draaaaaaaamaaaaa! Count your blessings and roll with it.

[Aegagropilon]

One of the fun things about the sims is that there can be such a difference between appearance and behavior, and it's all just luck of randomization (and player clothing choice). Your game's Steven is an example of that: he's big and burly, but he skips! How cute is that? (And if he's half as tough-looking as you say, no one would give him crap -- at least within earshot! -- for it.)

The family you described reminds me a bit of that one Belladonna Cove family -- the Clevelands? -- where the father is gay, but he's married to a woman and they have a child.

[joandsarah77]

Seriously? These are sims, pixels governed by code. He doesn’t skip because he's "feminine" He skips because you told him to go there and he doesn't have enough active points to run. Sims like who they like because you either have ACR or you have told them to go flirt with somebody. The game sets them as neutral as Peni Griffin said. You the player decide what will happen. Even with ACR that's a choice you make by putting it on and tweaking the settings. Sims could be female with beards and horns for all they care.

[Darby]

Um, yeah. This is totally your interpretation of sim behavior. Skipping is something ANY sim with enough playful points can do. Also, I don't believe I've ever seen a sim skip autonomously. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen, but are you sure you didn't tell him to skip? If not, my bet would be back on playful personality points. Perhaps autonomous skipping happens at the extreme end of 9-10 points. Regardless, neither gender preference nor your notions of femininity/masculinity have any relation to the issue whatsoever.

Your "big and burly" description is even more eyebrow-raising. Unless this sim is sporting a custom body builder skin, he's exactly the same size and shape as any other male sim of his age group. But even if he IS sporting a big, burly custom skin, what does that have to do with anything? Is the game supposed to somehow know that in your mind, a sim with that custom body type is "supposed" to be masculine and/or straight?

[maxon]

Uh - troll alert guys.

[jthm_nny]

Wait, what? I just don't remember the game assigning gender preferences. It never happened when I had the old disc installed, but I had to replace that one because my sister broke it. I haven' played Sims for maybe 2 years.

[BlakeS5678]

Wait, what? I just don't remember the game assigning gender preferences. It never happened when I had the old disc installed, but I had to replace that one because my sister broke it. I haven' played Sims for maybe 2 years.

And, your posting about something that happened two years ago BECAUSE...

[HystericalParoxysm]

The game doesn't assign gender preferences. Sims out of CAS are only assigned a gender preference when you, the player, do a romantic interaction with another sim, and only after that will the sim do autonomous romantic interactions and have a gender preference. The only way a sim had a gender preference without you setting it is A) the sim was not one you made, but one already in the game or B) you are using the ACR mod, which does set gender preferences.

[fruitsymphony]

If you make a family in CAS and they are Spouses, the man and the wife have gender preference.

But Anyways that cheat which says "Display/Show Sim's gender preference", it never says that they don't have any preference, it says that their autonomous gender preference is for Males. So it was a little bit confusing actually, because it seemed as if all the male sims were gay.

edit, With my game and ep:s

[Darby]

But Anyways that cheat which says "Display/Show Sim's gender preference", it never says that they don't have any preference, it says that their autonomous gender preference is for Males. So it was a little bit confusing actually, because it seemed as if all the male sims were gay.

That's not the case in my game. Before I use ACR to give everyone a preference, townies always come up with a message that says the sim has no preference, using that cheat.

[ella_in_wonderland]

These are sims we're talking about. There aren't any stereotypes; they might as well all be the same gender.

[TortureTheNannies]

Create a story line using these events. You created a gay sim and you got him married. He's a gay residing in a marriage to hide his true preference. or He's a straight man pretending to be gay, to marry a gay woman. Or the sims are confused, they think they're gay, even though they married and behave straight all their lives.

It's your game. You played it this way. Go do something useful with it.

[joandsarah77]

The game can influence gender preferences at uni. Say you had a newly made sim who was still gender neutral minding his or her own business and a cow runs in and flirt with them-that's about the only way I can think of for a game without a hack to randomly give a preference. I know I've had dormies who have been influenced by both cows and drama professors like that. From that a dormie could possibly influence other sims. But that still isn't the game assigning anything, it's all random.

[labellavienna]

Are your sims named Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman per chance?

[BeckyBoo8]

Sorry to be kinda random, but you guys are mentioning ACR. What does that stand for?

[Darby]

Autonomous Casual Romance
http://www.simbology.com/smf/index.php?topic=19.0

eta: Oops, that link is for the original ACR. There's an ACR2 that's more widely used these days. Good to see both and compare, though.
http://www.simbology.com/smf/index.php?topic=5669.0