Getting married

[Lennongirl]

Okay, so I got the game a week ago and last night was the first time I wanted to make a sim couple get married. Their relationship score was high and he got the option to propose to her, which worked no problem, so now they're engaged. Then he rolled the wish to have a wedding party, so (against my better judgement, since I hate parties) I decided to grant him his wish - wanted to see how the whole wedding cake thing would work.

Okay, so the guests arrive and I get the engaged simmies' relationship score nice and high again (full bar), click on the wedding cake - message pops up saying only "just married" sims can cut the wedding cake. Okay.... I figure the get married option must then be in the interactions between the two sims, but nope, nothing comes up there (*all* other romantic options come up btw, except try for baby is greyed out, because she is a townie and her household already has the max number of sims).

So I check online and seems I need to use the wedding arch. Finally, after a looooooooooooooooong search I find it in the catalog (NOT under entertainment/parties as you'd expect but under outdoors/misc - WTH). Great, so I select my sim and click on the arch - absolutely ZERO options come up. Check the relationship bar again - maxed out, but no interaction for get married/exchange rings or such similar comes up. Finally I decide screw this and ask all the guests to leave, figuring I'll just end the party and have a private wedding. Of course, when all the guests leave, the fiance also leaves, so I have to call her back.

Again, relationship bar is maxed out, but no "have private wedding" option pops up on the interactions between them.

I am beyond frustrated. Has anyone else had this happen?? And how do I fix it??

PS: I have NO mods currently installed with this EP, just minimal cc (hair and clothes).

[el_flel]

Yes, I had this happen.

I have a couple of sims who got married once successfully using all the new wedding items (arch, cake, etc.). I split them up and then got them back together. I sent them to exactly the same location for their second wedding but the 'get married' option didn't appear on the sims or the cake so I couldn't get them married.

I remember a WA-related bug whereby any sims who had previously broken up with a sim were unable to get into a new relationship because the option wouldn't appear, and was wondering if this is back in some form. However, the husband had been able to have a new 'steady' relationship with a different female sim, and he was able to 'go steady' and 'propose marriage' with the ex again, plus it appears that your couple hadn't previously broken up with each other, meaning it's not exactly like before so seems like it may be a new bug.

As for how to fix it, if it's an EA bug we'll have to wait for a patch or third party fix. I was able to get my couple married again by using Twallan's MasterController (I think that's what I used, it was definitely one of Twallan's mods). You could try the Help section in the meantime.

[Lennongirl]

:-/ Yeah, this was an entirely new couple, I've definitely not broken them up before (it was Parker Langerak and some maid).

Thanks for the tip on Twallan, I'll try that. Really hope EA fixes this - not cool at all!

[harlequinzombie]

The way it worked for me, you put up the arch and then, as one of the sims in the couple, select the other sim and click "Get Married" (I think it is), and they automatically go in front of the arch and get married. Then cut the cake after. The arch doesn't really do anything except provide a place for them to get married, and if you set chairs in front of it the guests will sit and watch the sims exchange rings.

[tomomi1922]

Let me jump in here real quick.

I am no expert on this topic so I am afraid I couldn't offer anything. I just have to ask Lennongirl if you really planned to have a sim marry another sim in different household and not moving in together, or moving out with both of them in a separate household from the rest of their families? I never thought of marrying sims from different households or even an NPC without having them moving in together. Not saying it can't happen, just saying I never thought of doing so (I play without Story progression so I usually micromanage everything when it comes to woohoo, marrying and moving households). :)

[fairycake89]

live in sin, it's cheaper and easier on the nerves ;-)