Okay, so today, I was listening to my brother talk about stuff he had heard his friends say. It was pretty disappointing, and I was worried about him, because has reached a troubled age. I decided to talk to my mom. But then I thought about the influence I might have had. I realized that he might have heard me swearing. I know I need help with this habit. But it's going to take a lot of work. I've heard my brother say some words, too, but he changes a few letters in the word so that he's not actually saying the word. All of us have decided we're not going to swear anymore. It's going to take a lot because, as my mom said, once they're in your mouth and mind, it's hard to get them out. Could you please pray for us as we take this on? I really want to quit this habit, and I don't want my brother to be badly influenced, especially not by me.
Yes, swearing is "just words." But they are words that can offend (or even hurt) other people. And yes I said "hurt". If someone calls you a M---F--- B---, how does it make you feel? How are you likely to react? Emotional pain is just as real as physical pain; it's just harder to see the wound. (And if that comment starts a fight, there is going to be physical pain involved as well.)
Even if the swearing is confined to reactions to situations, it makes you sound like you are less intelligent or reliable than you are. It may not be fair, but it is the way the world works. Avoiding swearing indicates a greater degree of self-control, and thus greater reliability. It also indicates that you have learned enough to be able to quickly think of better words to use in those situations. Both of these indications may be wrong, but this is the impression it gives. And fair or not, people judge you by the impressions you make. This becomes important when you are doing things like looking for a job. Of course you aren't going to swear in the Personnel Manager's office. But what if they heard you swearing in the parking lot of the store yesterday when you came out and found a flat tire?
So even thinking thoroughly about the commandment to bridle your tongue leaves the conclusion that swearing is a habit best broken.
Why is it wrong to swear? It's just words. I think people should think thoroughly before taking the Bible and it's laws this literally.
If we don't take the rules literally, then how should we take them? Metaphorically? God put them in place for us to follow, and even if you don't believe this swear words are hurtful no matter how you spin them.