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Theme Seasons and Celebrations - posted on 1st Oct 2017 at 1:52 PM
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Test Subject
#326 Old 16th Aug 2016 at 3:46 AM
I think it's personal preference, just like eye colour or hair colour.
Theorist
#327 Old 16th Aug 2016 at 11:06 PM
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Originally Posted by dreamprisoner
I think it's personal preference, just like eye colour or hair colour.


A preference isn't exclusionary like the OP is talking about. You don't go "I prefer blonde hair. You're perfect in every other way, but since you don't have blonde hair I'm not going to date you." That's not a preference, that's an exclusion.
Instructor
#328 Old 4th Sep 2016 at 12:25 AM
I think it's preference. Calling someone racist for having a certain preference is dumb IMO. It's like calling cis people who don't date trans people transphobic...
Field Researcher
#329 Old 12th Sep 2016 at 3:06 AM
Now this is a very tricky subject.

I think it depends on the context.

If someone chooses not to date, for example a Asian person due to stereotypes then that can be considered racist as you could be judging them solely on problematic stereotypes.

If some chooses to date a black person because they are more attracted to their facial features, fuller lips, etc then it doesn't to me. Just seems to me they prefer certain features that tend to occur in certain races.

I also think some people are attracted more to other races than others as they may have an affinity to that persons background or culture.

Its all variant depending on the situation but if someone said something blatant like "I don't date Indians because they are all stingy on a date" then I would consider that racist.
Instructor
#330 Old 24th Dec 2016 at 7:13 PM
Honestly surprised that most people are saying it is racist. Some people have particular preferences. It doesn't mean they hate people of races that aren't part of their preferences.

This is like saying it's transphobic to not want to date a trans person.

Having preferences =/= racism
#331 Old 24th Dec 2016 at 8:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Averex
Honestly surprised that most people are saying it is racist. Some people have particular preferences. It doesn't mean they hate people of races that aren't part of their preferences.

This is like saying it's transphobic to not want to date a trans person.

Having preferences =/= racism


Well, it would be racist If somebody said "I don't wanna date you, cause you're black and you are a criminal" (if the last one is not a fact or just blantly states that without looking for evidence)". Even saying "black" part could probably be racist and highly offensive/insulting. Replacing the last part with "Nothing personal tho" I'd say it would be ok and not racist at all.
Test Subject
#332 Old 26th Dec 2016 at 6:18 PM
I guess, it's racist....but why should anyone take it seriously?
Banned
#333 Old 26th Dec 2016 at 6:21 PM
I must be most racist person on planet because I find tan and dark skinned people more sexually attractive.
Instructor
#334 Old 26th Dec 2016 at 6:36 PM Last edited by pikeman101 : 31st Dec 2016 at 7:10 PM.
I maintain that, no matter how triggered it makes anyone, NO ONE has the right to sex. If you don't find someone attractive for whatever reason, that's justification enough not to date them.

EDIT: Love how someone thinks they do have a right to sex. Sorry, hon. No means no.
Top Secret Researcher
#335 Old 1st Jan 2017 at 11:56 PM
I hate how racisim is now often mistaked for differences between races. Simply pointing out the differences is not racist, but I see a lot of the people on the internet think it is. It's only racist if you use those differences to classify the spectrum of people for your own, wacked up ideas. Racism is an act of segregation of people in "higher" and "lower" races using cultural or genetic differences as an excuse and justification, and it's a sickness if you ask me. A mental disorder.

So, racism is not as simple as just prefering other skin-colored people. Racism is NOT prefering people due to their specific skin color or other physical/cultural traits. So, I agree it's just a preference, if it's not exclusion, as Mistermook stated already.
Test Subject
#336 Old 23rd Apr 2017 at 10:48 AM
It's not racist to have a preference, but it's racist to have strict rules and guidelines IMO because what it's basically implying is "I think all people of x race are ugly and I refuse to so much as give them a chance"
Scholar
#337 Old 24th Apr 2017 at 10:55 AM
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Originally Posted by spiralqq
It's not racist to have a preference, but it's racist to have strict rules and guidelines IMO because what it's basically implying is "I think all people of x race are ugly and I refuse to so much as give them a chance"


This!

Also there's a slight difference in having a quiet opinion or telling everyone you prefer people to look like this and that. I think you can miss out on some nice opportunities if you are openly close minded. As for me I have a thing for brown eyes, but I wouldn't write it on my dating profile, as I know there are a heck out of great guys with blue or green eyes out there. Then again, what we feel or think on the inside should be our own issues and no one elses...

"On the Internet you can be whoever you want. It's strange that so many choose to be stupid"
Banned
#338 Old 24th Apr 2017 at 5:30 PM
That question doesn't really make sense. Racism IS a preference, the fact that most of us look down on it doesn't change that.

Refusing to date members of a certain race because of said race is, by definition, racism. Though if you ask me, whether that's a good thing or a bad thing is entirely subjective.
Test Subject
#339 Old 10th May 2017 at 7:52 AM
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Originally Posted by McChoclatey
I've heard so many people say, "I only date Black girls," or "I only date White girls." But would that be considered racist or a preference? Can skin color be a preference?

Skin color can be a preference, but the problem with saying, to use one of your examples, "I only date black girls" is it ignores that 1) dark skin isn't exclusive to that one race, and 2) black people can have light skin.

It would make more sense to say "I only date dark/light-skinned girls", which refers directly to skin color rather than race.

"The call isn't out there at all! It's inside me!" - Moana
Instructor
#340 Old 27th May 2017 at 5:08 AM
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Originally Posted by KayeStar
Skin color can be a preference, but the problem with saying, to use one of your examples, "I only date black girls" is it ignores that 1) dark skin isn't exclusive to that one race, and 2) black people can have light skin.

It would make more sense to say "I only date dark/light-skinned girls", which refers directly to skin color rather than race.


It's always a preference. Even if you explicitly say, "I only date Asians," it's still a preference.
Instructor
#341 Old 30th May 2017 at 12:46 AM
Once upon a time, I dated somebody that wasn't my own race. He's black, I'm white.
Surprise: It wasn't any different from my other relationships with white guys.

Going off of my own experiences, I think it's perfectly fine to have preferences as long as you keep an open mind (which, some people don't. And that's sad, because otherwise, you might miss out on some rewarding and loving opportunities).
Just because someone gravitates towards X race of people in terms of dating/copulating/etc. doesn't mean they have a prejudice against other races. That would be like me saying "Yeah I only date purple guys because I hate green guys," versus "I only date purple guys because I'm not attracted to green ones." Just because I'm more likely to have a white partner doesn't make me a racist.
There's a line that exists between racism and attraction preference. Which, I know that it was just said that "racism is a preference," and that's true. Racism is a preference that exists to hate, whereas having a preference to date someone based on physical attraction is something different entirely.

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Test Subject
#343 Old 17th Sep 2017 at 6:23 AM
I don't think it's any different from not wanting to date someone with a certain hair color or body type. That said, when it comes to dating, aesthetics only really matter in the short-term.
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