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#4576 Old 18th May 2019 at 11:59 AM
Stuff from the health insurance company is starting to roll in. First surgery is going to cost over $2,000 out of pocket. Remember all the bullshit about how if they removed the second large stone it would have been considered like elective surgery? That one is going to cost just as much. Also remember back a few years ago when the big promises of how the so-called "Affordable Care Act" would be affordable? Yeah, that was a big fuckin' lie, just like how having a second kidney stone removed while a person is under for the same surgery is a elective surgery.

For a bunch of people that know so much and want to tell me how our health insurance works, I find it ironic that they ( either the doctors office or the snarky beyotch from the hospital) never bothered to call the health insurance company prior to either surgery. Doc and hospital had time to pre-certify, but nope. Not knowing WTF they are talking about and profit is more important. A simple phone call in both cases would have saved $1,000.00. But of course, for a group of people that know everything, why would they give any fucks what their not knowing actually costs.

This whole situation is going to leave a mark for awhile. It isn't like I can drop it as there is still a third stone that needs to be watched and dealt with; because elective. Kidney stones that are too large to pass because of asshole doctors is a emergency.

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Elective surgery or elective procedure is surgery that is scheduled in advance because it does not involve a medical emergency. Semi-elective surgery is a surgery that must be done to preserve the patient's life, but does not need to be performed immediately.


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elective_surgery

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#4577 Old 19th May 2019 at 7:32 PM Last edited by cherry4567 : 20th May 2019 at 7:53 AM.
Aaaah i hate acting like a girlfriend in these semi relationships that never turn into relationships. It's like I'm always the girl who holds the place for the efing next girlfriend.
Seriously.I'm tired of hearing oh you know what? You're a perfect friend and i love you so much for that in a friendly manner blah blah.
Okay so when is someone gonna love me cuz they LOVE me?! In a non friendly manner?! Probably never I guess.I have already given up on that part tbh. Something's we're not supposed to go through.
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#4578 Old 20th May 2019 at 8:09 AM
I always hated moving from one address to another. Problem is, due to my health, I have to go where my parents go. In fact, I gave up on making human IRL friends after living in the forest isolated from the valley, where people got lost finding our house. If I was to marry, my spouse would need to know to care for someone with implants and batteries in the pelvis and the semi annual maintenance. The fact I have numerous hobbies and interests is part of killing time when you give up on human contact IRL because you are placed so far out of reach of other people because prior to your current condition, people would heartlessly dub you a monster if you were to leave without any safety net to negate this status of some foul creature who should have her head mounted over a fireplace.

Why bother?

Next cat I'm getting is a Sphynx, because Gemini shed a layer of hairs and they're getting in my mouth!

"There are some obstacles that cannot be removed with a mere show of force."
-King of Atlantis, as portrayed by Leonard Nimoy, Atlantis: The Lost Empire
Space Pony
#4579 Old 20th May 2019 at 12:56 PM
See
This is my problem.I've never learned how to love myself.just how to love others and need the love from them.Can I change something with such deep roots?! Probably not. YAY!!
Mad Poster
#4580 Old 20th May 2019 at 4:51 PM
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Originally Posted by PANDAQUEEN
The fact I have numerous hobbies and interests is part of killing time when you give up on human contact IRL
Why bother?

I wouldn't be so defensive at Simmer22's comment on the other thread. She wasn't trying to offend you, just suggesting that you should put your hard saved money into one project at a time.

Also you shouldn't give up on human interaction. If anything, a job where you're forced to interact with people might be a good idea. For years I didn't interact with people IRL until I became a carer - which requires a LOT of human interaction. It's made me more confident with small talk, which has lead me to making a fair few friends. Though I know that approach isn't for everyone.

~Your friendly neighborhood ginge
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#4581 Old 20th May 2019 at 8:46 PM Last edited by PANDAQUEEN : 20th May 2019 at 10:35 PM.
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Originally Posted by Bigsimsfan12
I wouldn't be so defensive at Simmer22's comment on the other thread. She wasn't trying to offend you, just suggesting that you should put your hard saved money into one project at a time.

Also you shouldn't give up on human interaction. If anything, a job where you're forced to interact with people might be a good idea. For years I didn't interact with people IRL until I became a carer - which requires a LOT of human interaction. It's made me more confident with small talk, which has lead me to making a fair few friends. Though I know that approach isn't for everyone.


It's not so much wanting to pursue my inclination toward technology and entertainment in one blow. I just need to straighten out my priorities. I'm saving money again. I think I saved $850 years ago and bought bedroom furniture with it. That was the most I ever saved in my life.

Originally, that money was to go get my tubes tied. But the doctor would not perform it on a 23 year old. I always hated that, because men over 18 can freely get vasectomies while they force women to wait until they are 30 to get their tubes tied citing "You may reconsider having children..." (I always hated that and called bullshit). I made up my mind and I actually hate the idea of children. It's bad enough I have some childish traits. Do you really want two of me in this world? Even though I'm now old enough for the procedure, I want the 8 years of my life wasted back. I am a failure in childrearing, anyway.

Right now, it's a matter of shopping around for equipment based on the price and technical specifications. I have a specific model for each item, usually one in a best seller ranking for the specifications required.

I currently take whatever coin is found while my father is job hunting (His secret is to watch where you walk). As you know, being the kitchen manager, which in his situation, was not unlike sous chef, was becoming a nightmare. The iGen kids didn't show up regularly for prep work, in-fighting among older kitchen crew members and he was generally unhappy that things went downhill. My father is usually happiest in jobs where he served people. He has a servant's heart. In terms of supernatural, he essentially would be a genie. As long as he has a master of some sort to wait upon, he is content to help the master who has possession of the lamp.

The majority of the money I get through the government is going towards the down payment as payback to my parents paying the lump sum of my new computer, which I had little time for setting it up how I like due to the number of doctor appointments and surgeries, not to mention my bills pay for their rent. Whatever I get left over, I squirrel away. I have about something around $10-$12 in an assortment of coins and $1 bills.

In any case, I have a goal in mind that I already collected some money for, but if I told you what that item was, you'd probably ream me for pointlessness.

If this seems like a pity party, I haven't been feeling so well. Didn't sleep well, made a Gru-worthy joke to Dr. K and he found out my missed opportunity to teach science and was so tired I left my jacket on the porch (I use this jacket like a robe because I tend to sleep in my panties and bralette on hot\warm day or put a t-shirt over them on cool\cold days) and to top it off, I'm getting ready for my surge because if my calculations are correct, my period should arrive by Thursday evening\Friday morning. Not dating anyone in this world (I have my pick of men in my dreams, but that's for another day and time), so I should be on time.

Sometimes, I think periods are punishment for not getting pregnant. Back before I was treated for a number of period related issues, even if I had a pad, the accidents were like someone committed a gruesome murder, tried hiding the body in the bed, it bled out and they moved the body and I have to throw everything in the wash. Good thing women like myself know how to clean blood stains.

In a couple of days, I have to go back for the final installation. I hope I can sleep and dream of interesting men

(I usually play the muscle in various adaptations of famous productions. I play a compact but powerful Fezzik equivalent in a The Princess Bride adaptation. I usually work with a charmer who puts up with me and my antics. The other is a B.A. Baracas character who, in spite of her strength, she usually is given sedative laced foods and drinks before they board her on a plane safely. (Can't fly unsedated. Fear increases her strength)

Problem is: would anyone buy into a gender swap and rearrangement or would it be like that Ghostbusters movie with the female team members and get dumped on by Fragile Masculinity?

"There are some obstacles that cannot be removed with a mere show of force."
-King of Atlantis, as portrayed by Leonard Nimoy, Atlantis: The Lost Empire
#4582 Old 20th May 2019 at 11:12 PM
...you know, I haven't even started my first day at my new job yet, but I'm already starting to have second thoughts. The way they called back so soon after I applied pretty much screamed that they're desperate for new hires, and the hiring manager that interviewed me seemed distracted throughout the entire interview. I called earlier about the orientation, but he didn't say when it'd be, only to come at 9 am on Wednesday with two forms of ID and that'd I would be speaking with another dude. This has been the only job offer I've had in months, and it may take another few just to get a job offer elsewhere, but...I'm not sure about this job. I checked online and that location only has two stars.

Dammit, I should've just stuck with my old job at the local zoo. The new job offers the same pay, and it's closer than the zoo, but...I honestly wasn't expecting it to be this messy. I may only stick around the new job for a couple of weeks before I try my luck with the zoo again. I have more availability and the people there know me so it may be a little easier.

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"Meh." - me
Mad Poster
#4583 Old 21st May 2019 at 12:06 AM Last edited by simmer22 : 21st May 2019 at 1:59 AM.
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Originally Posted by Bigsimsfan12
I wouldn't be so defensive at Simmer22's comment on the other thread. She wasn't trying to offend you, just suggesting that you should put your hard saved money into one project at a time.

Also you shouldn't give up on human interaction. If anything, a job where you're forced to interact with people might be a good idea. For years I didn't interact with people IRL until I became a carer - which requires a LOT of human interaction. It's made me more confident with small talk, which has lead me to making a fair few friends. Though I know that approach isn't for everyone.


^ Yup.

If I wasn't forced to do some human interaction in my job, I'd probably be spending most of my time indoors not talking with anyone else than my family (because they're usually around even when I don't want them to be). It's called exposure therapy. I know a lot of people have much worse social anxiety than I've ever had (I've had a couple dark times in my life where I probably just scratched the surface of the worst), but getting out and about is in fact one of the therapy solutions most used in psychiatry for this problem. I'm not that confident with smalltalk or phones or all the other issues I have yet, but I'm slowly getting there. Caring for old people who have dementia or bad memory (roughly half of our patients - I work in a nursing home) is actually quite nice, because if I say something weird they've usually forgotten it 5 minutes later, if they even remember they talked to me. And the people I work with are mostly a nice bunch (some even weirder than me, so I'm in good company), and usually understanding if I'm having a bad day. As a bonus, I can sometimes just be a little childish if I feel like, singing or joking or just acting a little silly - basically anything to get a genuine smile - because sometimes all these people really need is someone who is there for them to liven up their day, or just sit and talk or hold their hand. As a bonus, it also makes my day a little better. The work can be stressful (because I also have to do the rest of the nurse work, and my health often acts up), so some days those moments are the only thing that gets me through the day.

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Originally Posted by PANDAQUEEN
Sometimes, I think periods are punishment for not getting pregnant.


Well... they are. And why evolution hasn't got rid of this issue yet is still a mystery, because few (if any) other animal species have similar monthly issues

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Originally Posted by PANDAQUEEN
If I was to marry, my spouse would need to know to care for someone with implants and batteries in the pelvis and the semi annual maintenance.


The doctor would probably need to be a specialist in the field to have any sort of foreknowledge, and may be very hard to come by. It's not like you have to marry a doctor just because you have a medical problem. I'd assume you'd get enough information from your doctors to care for yourself, and whatever a future spouse needed to know he could learn from you or get information from your doctors. It's not too different from being a spouse to a person with any other type of condition that needs home maintenance, like diabetes, heart or lung disease, epilepsy, or similar. non-medical personnel deal with these things all the time, and as long as they learn what to (and not) to do, it usually works out fine. Spouses or other caregivers like parents usually learn these sort of things soon enough if need be, often becoming as close to an expert on that particular condition. It's just a matter of learning enough to handle it. And I'm sure most of the more specialized medical and technical stuff is handled by the doctors/specialists, anyway.

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The majority of the money I get through the government is going towards the down payment as payback to my parents paying the lump sum of my new computer, which I had little time for setting it up how I like due to the number of doctor appointments and surgeries, not to mention my bills pay for their rent. Whatever I get left over, I squirrel away. I have about something around $10-$12 in an assortment of coins and $1 bills.


I don't know much about your parents' situation, but it does sound like they're living off your meager income, which may not be entirely right (do they have any kind of jobs?). Perhaps they'd need to do something about their own situation. It does sound like you're kind of living in a somewhat destructive bubble with very little freedom but still a very big future dream filled with hopes and dreams, but not actually doing much to achive any goals (perhaps not quite realizing that some might be very difficult to achieve). I'm not saying this to be cruel or anything. It's just an observation.

A lot of people who struggle with health issues, particularly within mental health, have a tendency to fill their time with a lot of behaviors and hobbies/interests that to them seem completely normal, but from the outside look like they're doing everything to evade their actual problems. I've been in such situations, and with a bit of help I realized what I was doing (I had OCD behaviors for quite some time, and during a few depressive times I basically barricaded myself inside with various hobbies just to escape the real world) and managed to kind of step up and 'see myself from the outside', and eventually got out of this destructive mindset. I wouldn't say I'm completely out of it, but at least now I can realize when I'm doing it, so I can stop before it becomes a major problem again. Its one thing to have hobbies that make you happy and content with your life, it's another thing to be so buried in hobbies you forget there's a world out there and instead keep yourself so busy you don't have to deal with an actual life. So long as you're in control, it's fine to forget the world for a little bit while being immersed in a hobby, but perhaps not all the time, and not so it interferes with all the other aspects of your life. It's nice to have goals and dreams, and it's also fine to not fulfill all of them. But to fulfill them, you kind of have to put in a little bit of work.

It's okay to be a little childish even when you're an adult, but at some point a person does need to do a little bit of growing up so they can take care of themselves and perhaps get started on some of those goals and dreams. You can still keep the same hobbies and interests. I'm 30+ and still have a lot of what may be considered somewhat childish behavior, interests and hobbies. However, I also save money for future expenses (we're talking house/car/etc. when that time comes), go to work (when I'm not on sick leave, anyway), and do all those other 'responsible adult' things society dumps into your lap when you're 'of age' (when most of us really aren't until at least a few years later). 'd rather not, but since there's no real choice in the matter I guess it's something I just have to deal with...

I'm not trying to be cruel in any way, but it sometimes sounds like you're not in a particularly good place (from an outward perspective, at least), and I'm just hoping that if this is the case you'll get some inspiration to do something about it. Being moved around by your parents' whims and barricading yourself with various hobbies as an escape doesn't sound like an ideal solution to living your life. I might be wrong - maybe you're just really into those hobbies and don't mind saving that little trickle of money, and maybe your parents and you have a wonderful life together. Maybe you don't want any advice whatsoever on the net, but still use the various topics as your personal (and dare I say waaaay too detailed) journal. Either way, what you do is up to you. I'm just trying to shake your boat a little, just in case there's any need for it, because I do wish for you to have a good life.

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Originally Posted by Graveyard Snowflake
...you know, I haven't even started my first day at my new job yet, but I'm already starting to have second thoughts.


Perhaps the interviewer just had a bad day or had other things on their mind that day. Doesn't have to be a bad thing, and they did give you the job, so that's good. Give it a chance, and maybe you'll be positively surprised, so just keep your hopes up. Congratulations on the job, and I hope it turns out good! And if it doesn't, I still hope things work out

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I'm currently very frustrated at the healthcare system, because the past 5 months I feel like I've only seen the worst of it. Appointments for 2-5 months into the future, referrals getting lost in space, spending time at the hospital I'd been better off spending it at home (I'd slept better, anyway - I sleep like a newborn baby when away from home - waking every so often and fussing way too much), the whole "You may need surgery...maybe... nope", a multitude of phonecalls, getting mystery appointments nobody knows anything about and apparently no one sent, spending 6 hours traveling for something that could've probably been done over phone, and nobody putting in any effort into finding a proper diagnosis, so I have to pull the threads to get referrals (that MRI that started most of this was my idea, btw - tok me at least 2 GP appointments to get there). I get the feeling they do not comunicate whatsoever, and most of the contact seems to go through my GP, who rarely has available appointments until the next month or so. If anyone has communication problems, it's the healthcare system, not me...

The only thing I am happy with is the dentist appointments I had, because those were straight to the point and not so expensive I thought they'd be at first. Plus, the dentist was quite nice, very good at explaining, and his tone was calm. Got through a somewhat complicated tooth-pulling with just a few extra doses of local anesthesia (because of a stubborn nerve). Still, less nervewracking than the rest of these 5 months...
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#4584 Old 21st May 2019 at 2:36 AM
I have been dealing with yet another night of cat hair in my mouth. You could only imagine high school and four cats share a bed.

Next time I'm in the market for a new pet, I probably will get a hairless breed. Pet sunscreen in summer and sweaters in winter.

"There are some obstacles that cannot be removed with a mere show of force."
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Scholar
#4585 Old 21st May 2019 at 4:17 PM Last edited by Emmett Brown : 21st May 2019 at 4:30 PM.
They promised me over 50 years ago that the US would go metric. Still nothing. I'm frustrated by this. I do all the science and engineering in metric. But cooking? teaspoons, tablespoons, ounces weight or mass, ounces volume, cups, pints, quarts gallons... my slide rule is worn out doing the conversions.
I'm going metric. I'm taking all my favorite recipes and converting them to metric. And I'm getting metric measuring non-cups.
Edit: Well that was short lived. The best I can do in the US is buy Sterling system cups with the metric volume equivalent on them.
Edit 2: brilliant Idea! Shop Amazon UK and pay a lot more for shipping and foreign transaction fees. Nope! Same thing! Time to brush up on the French and see if I can navigate the Amazon France pages.

Sims are better than us.
Mad Poster
#4586 Old 21st May 2019 at 5:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Emmett Brown
They promised me over 50 years ago that the US would go metric. Still nothing. I'm frustrated by this. I do all the science and engineering in metric. But cooking? teaspoons, tablespoons, ounces weight or mass, ounces volume, cups, pints, quarts gallons... my slide rule is worn out doing the conversions.
I'm going metric. I'm taking all my favorite recipes and converting them to metric. And I'm getting metric measuring non-cups.
Edit: Well that was short lived. The best I can do in the US is buy Sterling system cups with the metric volume equivalent on them.
Edit 2: brilliant Idea! Shop Amazon UK and pay a lot more for shipping and foreign transaction fees. Nope! Same thing! Time to brush up on the French and see if I can navigate the Amazon France pages.

My baking equipment is in tablespoons, cups etc. My measuring jugs are in ml AND cups. The scales are in grams but the ones at work in pounds.
I'm British and wildly confused

~Your friendly neighborhood ginge
Scholar
#4587 Old 21st May 2019 at 6:03 PM
I can't find metric cooking equipment.
Well, I set my phone for Celsius instead of Fahrenheit. That's my victory for today.

Between reading the news and personal problems, I feel a bit defeated. I want to get back to where I'm oblivious to all but studying physics or engineering. I want to go back to uni. The Genetic Engineering group said they'd take a grad student with BS's & MS in physics and EE and outside biology. It's a free too... no fees or tuition and full stipend. Sounds like fun to me! Family says no. We'd actually have MORE money.

Sims are better than us.
#4588 Old 21st May 2019 at 10:04 PM
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Originally Posted by simmer22
Perhaps the interviewer just had a bad day or had other things on their mind that day. Doesn't have to be a bad thing, and they did give you the job, so that's good. Give it a chance, and maybe you'll be positively surprised, so just keep your hopes up. Congratulations on the job, and I hope it turns out good! And if it doesn't, I still hope things work out


Yeah, that might be it. I AM willing to give it a shot, though, as this and the cross-training will look good on my resume. If things start to go south somehow, I'll be sure to get outta there quick before I get caught too deep in the mess. Thanks for the encouragement, though.

Life is paradoxically coincidental to the ironical tyranny applicable to the unparalleled definition of reverse entropy.

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"Meh." - me
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#4589 Old 22nd May 2019 at 11:44 AM
Honestly I feel I'm exactly where I was last year.same events, different people.even the dates are somehow the same.weird right?!
And God I hate this.today I walked away from something I didn't walk away from exactly one year ago today,that I always thought was a mistake and would've made things easier.but guess what?! It didn't.there's still the same pain the same loss the same b.s.
So why am I stuck here?! Why won't shit change even when I do?! I'm gonna try my best to shut down my feelings cuz it's just not working.
Mad Poster
#4590 Old 22nd May 2019 at 4:52 PM
I'm sorry you feel so stuck, sweetie. I know you are looking for companionship, and my prayer is that you find it soon. But, you said you don't like yourself. Maybe this alone time is a good excuse to look at that and figure out what it is about you that you don't like. I'm not a big proponent on changing for anyone else in the world. But if there are some small alterations you can do to make you feel better about yourself, maybe work on those. You will feel better and that will make you more confident.

**hugs**

@Emmettbrown - I've told you before our system of weights is perfect. No need to change it to the very evil metric system. Come home to the standard system. It's superior. :3

Also, going back to school when you are retired is a great decision. You are a scholar at heart. Your choice is to make yourself happy or to cave in to a family that doesn't really seem to have your happiness as a priority. Remember when we decided Emmett is a person, too? Make yourself happy as often as you can.

Tell the fam Smorbie ordered you to do it.

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#4591 Old 22nd May 2019 at 7:17 PM
I'm pointing the finger at myself with this post; being lazy doesn't pay.

I haven't been in the mood to clean lately. I do laundry, clean the bathroom, wash dishes, empty the trash... that kind of stuff. What I haven't been doing is things like dusting which means that I've spent most of the day dealing with dust, cobwebs and wondering why I have things around that house that seem to serve no other purpose than to collect dust. The kitchen looked like a bomb hit. There was piles of paper on the table, boxes of stuff from Costco that have been sitting around for almost a week, ect... I need to get back into my normal routine. Being a slob for a day or two is okay, but making a habit of it then having to deal with the aftermath isn't my idea of a good time.

Most of the mess is cleaned up. I still have another load of laundry to do and there is the usual hay scattered all over my office floor. Since I'm not in the mood to be in the house, I think it would be a good night to bang out what little shopping that needs to be done which will free up tomorrow to do whatever. I'm not going anywhere near stores over the weekend as all of them are going to be a zoo due to it being Memorial Day weekend.

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#4592 Old Today at 12:42 AM
My stupid jerk neighbors are setting off fireworks right now. Thanks New Jersey, for making that stupid shit legal! Really fucking wonderful of you!

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Mad Poster
#4593 Old Today at 2:05 AM
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Originally Posted by adamsavagefan
My stupid jerk neighbors are setting off fireworks right now. Thanks New Jersey, for making that stupid shit legal! Really fucking wonderful of you!


With you on that...

Couldn't even make a frickin' s'more because my mother can still hear. You think with the fact that I am verbal and extremely loud, she'd be deaf now.

Noise is my boon and undoing.

"There are some obstacles that cannot be removed with a mere show of force."
-King of Atlantis, as portrayed by Leonard Nimoy, Atlantis: The Lost Empire
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