Relatinship slowness..

[KyleTheArtist]

It takes a while to improve relationships...I made myself sim and a hubby self sim and they are just friends. Romantic relationship are limited. I really don't know any suggestions? Their relationships don't move further then friend and it is weird...

[bluegenjutsu]

They have to talk to each other a lot.

[beeps]

I build my relationships by stacking interactions one after another (chat, get to know, gossip, make silly face, chat, get to know, tell funny story, gossip, etc etc). Then I quick switch to the romantic interactions and stack them (ask if single, flirt, hug, compliment, kiss, etc etc). That usually gets them both in the right mood to start allowing those other romantic interactions come through.

[WCF]

Sometimes I've been able to hit it off right away with the romantic interactions, but your right, it is more difficult than The Sims 2. Obviously you can't go straight into the first kisses. My sims wouldn't even do that until they were pretty far ahead.

I think the new relationship system is a little mixed. Good for making it more difficult, but perhaps they did it in a wrong way. It seems more frustrating than fun.

[captainzaza]

It seems like they made relationships a little too hard to achieve. But it's kinda cool at the same time because irl you won't fall in love, get engaged, get married, and get pregnant all in about 6 hours.

[bluegenjutsu]

Actually you can fall in love, get engaged, married and pregnant in 6 hours if you do it with someone you are really good friends with. Even easier with best friends. Just invite them over and start talking, then flirting and the rest happens quickly if you want it too.

[kawaiimiyo]

I actually found it easier in TS3 to start a relationship with my sim o.O perhaps they just happened to match up really well....... like right after just 4 interactions, my sim had "Complimented the personality" of the other sim, and they both got into this "flirty mood" first the other sim thought mine was being "Flirty" then "Very alluring" then a few mins later realtime, thought my sim was being "Extremely irresistable" lol... and off they went a huggin' and a kissin' lol...

whereas in TS2... i couldnt get my sim to have any romantic interaction until the relationship points were like really high... T.T i'd have to set them talking and chatting over and over again, max the speed, and use cheats so their moods stay up long enough to continue....

[diogenes]

I needed a wife for a sim so created a gal with a couple traits he had, made her a flirt, hopeless romantic, family oriented [he was family oriented also] and moved her in across the street, then had him go meet her. They got engaged the first day and moved in the next, then married. That couple are elders now, and have 5 kids [her lifetime wish]. he is a world renowned surgeon and she is a master chef and master gardener. 2 kids have left home... the daughter is a single mom, so they are grandparents :-) by the time they knew they were grandparents [check their family tree], the daughter was no longer speaking to her mother and she couldn't pick up her grandson, only grandpa could.

After the above sim [first generation to be born in-game] got married off, I then made a sim with a couple shared traits with the above sim's younger brother, and moved her in across the street. he met her [a flirty, hopeless romantic who also loves the outdoors]. they hooked up and she moved in pretty easily but were soon kicked out. eventually they married [without me playing them] and had a couple kids.

by combining traits you can get them to be who you want, then they'll do what you want. like a flirty, hopeless romatic with commintment issues, would hook up a lot but not marry, whereas a flirty hopeless romantic who is family oriented would.

:-)

[queenbunnywitch]

I noticed this too. It's annoying because I'm used to playing sims 2 with so many mods that if i wanted someone to be friends or in love i just used insiminator.



I miss being god :(

[WCF]

I noticed this too. It's annoying because I'm used to playing sims 2 with so many mods that if i wanted someone to be friends or in love i just used insiminator.



I miss being god :(

Isn't that boring?

[Srikandi]

The trick to relationship advancement in TS3 is to stick to a single conversation branch. If you want to get romantic, use romantic options exclusively. If you move back to a "friendly" interaction, it resets your progress in romance.

You can also reset your progress by being boring, which happens when you repeat the same interaction more than twice in the same conversation.

So long as you keep up the romantic interactions and don't bore your partner, you should get the response that the other person thinks you're flirty, then alluring, then irresistible. When you're irresistible, you should have all the romantic options available to you.

[bluegenjutsu]

Okay, since playing Sims 3, this is the first time I've reached level 10 charisma with a sim and he doesn't have the charismatic trait, but he can flirt with anyone, even people that he has never talked to before, right after he greets them. This will make things a lot easier when I finally decide it's time for him to get a mate. He's still young after all. ;)

[bidou]

Charisma plays a major part in all Sims interations, romance is much quicker with a few points.
Also using a mirror to "gussy up" helps.

[hellosexy]

I noticed this too. It's annoying because I'm used to playing sims 2 with so many mods that if i wanted someone to be friends or in love i just used insiminator.



I miss being god :(
i miss it to :|

[psalms1188]

what I really hate is how if you leave and go do something else, then it resets. That's lame. I want to be able to kiss my wife before leaving for work without having to work up to it. When I come home, it'd be nice to makeout and then woohoo without it taking all night to get up to that level. While I do like the in-depthness, it should make more sense.

[Macman361]

I noticed that if you talk to a sim about something that both have in common, they tend to become friends much faster, and the other sim is much less likely to become bored with you. The "enthuse about ..." options tend to work the best in my experience. I used "enthuse about sports" (at least I think it was sports...something physical anyways) to make two athletic sims best friends within relatively few interactions.

[MystiTsu]

I think they did make it a little more difficult to make friends and more with sims and thats a good thing. But once they are friends or mates they should not have to work so hard. I mean like Psalms said, they could be married but you can't just get up and kiss your mate, you have to schmooze them all over again. Thats rediculous. while that may happen occationally in real life(sometimes i have to schmooze my mate) usually when I leave the house i get a kiss on the cheek or a hug or something. but sims. nope, start from the ground up. thats kind of rediculous.

[JoanneDyer]

This playing hard to get part irritates me too. A bit. But what pisses me off the most that they seem to have no such problem with others. I just saw my sim's almost bf in park, sucking face with some random chick. Tori something-or-other. Wtf?... There wasn't anything even close to a relationship in his life! And my Lilly only wanted to take things slow, take a day off to focus on her career... Even in game guys need a leash. A really tight one.

[psivampyr]

I am finding that children and other family members if they don't interact the bars of friendship start going down. And with the upkeep of everything else the relationship decay is quite frustrating. I do what I can to keep up with friends and such, but it's really getting annoying. When my sim's wife died he got a broken heart, but in the description it just says "a close friend: do wives and husband death have a different debuff?

[crocobaura]

Bwahahaa. The relationship panels resetting are a real pain. But even so, I found it to be just as easy as in Sims2 to get them from virtual strangers to live in boyfriend/ girlfriend in just one sim night. Unless their victim happens to be married and/or have family trait in which case they just think your sim is being awkward whenever you try to flirt with them. I need to find a workaround for that.

[HCAC]

I've made 3 sims so far and none of them seem to be able to get in a marriage.
I guess the next sims I make will have to be a family or couple so we can get some more interesting interactions going.

One sims woohooed with a guy but that basically was it. He wasn't overly interested in her. She's still floundering in their relationship.

[bluegenjutsu]

I only decided to have two sims I made have a relationship with a town sim and it was very easy for me to do that and to go ahead and let them marry. It could be that you are trying to match up two sims with traits that have nothing in common. The two sims should at least share a trait or two (or compatible traits together). The sims that my sims were able to flirt with pretty quickly all shared something in common that they could talk about. It's the same way with making friends. You make friends faster with the sims you have something in common with.

[saintlylor]

It takes a while to improve relationships...I made myself sim and a hubby self sim and they are just friends. Romantic relationship are limited. I really don't know any suggestions? Their relationships don't move further then friend and it is weird...

I don't know if this helps, but you have to actually select the social 'confess attraction' or 'kiss' (a specific kiss, which I can't remember the name of right now..) to get them from friendly to romantic interest. It doesn't happen automatically when their relationship is high, like it did in Sims 2.
At least, that's what I've found :)