I loaded the Goth family and all the tombstones are gone. Where did they go? Can I get them back? Is my neighborhood screwed? I have nounlinkondelete, does that help?

Since you have nounlink you should be safe from any actual corruption being caused when tombstones disappear, if you load up Hoodchecker it should give an option to force move tombstones to a lot when you click remove, by then all you'd have to do is head to the lot you've moved everything to and can pick them up and take them back home if you want.

It's a little long winded, but you can also restore gravestones on the current lot if you have an object that allows you to spawn sims (Tombstone of Life & Death, SimBlender, Teleporter, etc.) and the FFS Lot Debugger, also referred to as the 'BatBox'. What you can do is spawn your chosen sim, pause your game, enable debug mode (boolprop testingcheatsenabled true) and SHIFT + Click on the BatBox. It should give you an option to respawn the tombstones.

Here is a video showing the three best known methods of respawning missing graves. There are links to the mods required for each method.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkINbG95O9o


This page shows the batbox method and at the bottom of the page a method for respawning pet graves.

https://pixel-trade.livejournal.com/26093.html